Riley and Stanley’s story

“When the Alexander Care Team walks through the door, the huge smiles on the faces of both boys are such a joy to see! They get so excited and know that they are in for lots of fun.”

Brothers, Riley and Stanley, have been supported by the Alexander Care Team for the last couple of years. Born just over a year apart, the boys were diagnosed with a rare genetic condition that means they cannot sit, talk, walk or swallow and require 24-hour care and support.

For their parents, Shailza and Daniel, everyday life is tough, relentless and exhausting. Their sons require constant care and support. As well as administering their medication the boys need their bodies adjusted throughout the day and night. Water and feeding is needed at regular intervals via special feeding devices that have been fitted to allow food to go straight to their tummies. Two years ago Riley also developed seizures so they have to monitor his temperature regularly. Both boys also have frequent chest infections which add further challenges.

Here Shailza shares some insight into life with her boys and the invaluable support she gets from Alexander Devine Children’s Hospice Service….

Despite what people might think, ours is not a house of sadness

“People think that our house must be a place of such sadness but it could not be further from the truth. There is nothing the boys love more than to giggle and be cheeky. Yes, it is tough and their needs are always increasing, but we have so much fun and I am determined to give the boys as much enjoyment in life as I can. Who knows what the future holds but the amazing support from Alexander’s Care Team is so valuable in helping me make the most of the time we have with them.”

The support we get helps us give the boys every opportunity we can to do things that normal, healthy children their age would do

“In so many ways they are like regular five and six year-old boys. They are so cheeky, they love making lots of noise, love getting messy and are both just so full of adventure. Support from the team at Alexander Devine helps us to really give them every opportunity we can to do things that normal, healthy children their age would do. They get so much out of the home visits as well as trips to the hospice. They become so excited as they always know they are in for such a treat- lots of cuddles, stimulation, sensory experiences and adventures!

“As parents it is such a peace of mind to be able to leave the boys in safe hands. They know my boys so well, know what their facial expressions mean and I am always impressed by how much thought goes into the activities they plan and all the amazing stuff they bring with them to stimulate the boys.”

Not just support for the boys, but a sounding board for me

Whilst sometimes I will use the visits to have some time for myself, I also find the emotional support they provide so valuable. They are my sounding board and I know I can offload and they will listen to me. They help me put things in perspective and provide advice if I need it. I couldn’t ask for more!”

One of Riley and Stanley’s regular carers from The Alexander Care Team is Ana:

“When we visit Riley and Stanley we know that we are in for a noisy and messy few hours! There is never a dull moment with these gorgeous, happy boys. Whilst they show clear preferences for different activities they both love singing along to songs with us, getting stuck in with all the arts and crafts and just constantly giggling. They are so inspiring, no matter what they are going through, they never fail to raise a smile or let out a giggle.”

This Christmas, help us to continue to support families like Stanley and Riley’s, helping them to make the most of the time that they have together.

 

Donate to our Christmas appeal

 

Need our help?

The word hospice should not seem scary and getting support from us doesn’t have to mean a child’s death is imminent. Helping to enrich the lives of the children and their families is at the heart of our service, our end of life and bereavement support is just a part of what we do.

Our children’s hospice service covers the whole of Berkshire and into surrounding counties. Anyone can make a referral to Alexander Devine Children’s Hospice Service and if you think your child may be eligible for our services, please do get in touch.

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This October, our incredible friends at Nirvana Spa are hosting an ALL INCLUSIVE Caribbean Party with 100% of all ticket sales benefitting Alexander Devine!

This spectacular event promises to be an occasion to remember with reggae anthems, a carnival atmosphere and bottomless rum punch! You will feel like you've been transported to Caribbean shores.

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We absolutely love our new mobile sensory unit, generously donated by The Fence Club.

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If you are shopping in your local Tesco store in the next few months, you could help us win up to £3,000!

We’re thrilled to be in the customer vote for a Tesco #CommunityGrant during July, August and September.

Every time you shop, please ask for a blue token at the till and pop it in our box. The more tokens we get, the bigger the donations we receive so don't forget to also ell your friends and family about how they can support us.

The other great news is that there are plenty of stores around Maidenhead and Reading that you can vote in. We've listed some of these below:
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